Nā kōkua no ke ola palekana me kahi mau makemake nui keiki
Mai ke kula kiʻekiʻe, ua hana wau ma nā hanana piha a me nā luʻi nui iʻae iaʻu e hoʻohana i kaʻu mau aʻoʻana a me kaʻu mau akamai a ua haʻalele iaʻu e like me kaʻu i hana ai i kahi haʻawina kūikawā. ʻO ka hana ma waho o ka home a me ka pilinaʻana me nā hoa,ʻo ia ka mea e makemake ai koʻu lolo a me ka mea e pono ai iaʻu ke ola i ke ola kaulike.
I ka manawa iʻikeʻia kaʻu kaikamahine me ka autism , ua hoʻololi loaʻia koʻu manaʻo no ka hoʻokō a me ka pilikia.
Inā heleʻo kaʻu wahine i ka hōʻailona, e maopopo anei iaʻu keʻano o ka laweʻana i ka haukapila ma ka home? Ināʻo wau ke heleʻana i nā hoʻolālā me ia,ʻo ia ka manaʻo e haʻalele i kaʻuʻoihana a inā wau e hana, hiki anei iaʻu ke hoʻolimalima i nā hoʻoponopono?
ʻO ka hapa nui o nā keiki me nā kūikawā kūikawā he kumu ola a pau, e koi ana i nā mākua e lilo i poʻe akamai i keʻano e like me keʻano e mālama ai i nā pilikia a me nā hana a ke keiki. ʻO ka'ōlelo hoʻohālike i'ōleloʻia no ka nui o nā'ōpiopio me ka autism hoʻomaka i 25 mau hola i kēlā me kēia wiki,ʻaʻole e haʻi i kaʻoihana, ke kino a me ka'ōlelo. Eia kekahi,ʻo ka loaʻaʻana o nā meaʻai i nā keiki i ka mea e pono ai ke aʻoʻana i nā meaʻai kūikawā, e kūʻai ana i nā meaʻai a lākou iʻikeʻole ai -ʻoiai lākou e ho'āʻo nei e hana i kā lākou hana a mālama i kā lākou mau keiki'ē aʻe.
He nui nā keiki me nā pono kūikawā he nui hoʻi nā koho o ke kauka a me nā noho hoʻomaha a me ka pono e mālamaʻia ka home mai ke kula i nā manawa pinepine ma mua o ka hoʻonuiʻana i nā keiki.
Mākaʻiʻia nā Mākua o nā Manaʻo Manaʻo Nui
I ka makahiki 2009, uaʻikeʻia nā manaʻo o nā makuahine a me nā poʻe mākua me ka maʻi autism e like me ke kaumaha iʻikeʻia e nā koa hakakā. Eia kekahi, ua hakakā kēia mau makua me ka luhi pinepine a me nā pilikia o ka hana a me ka hoʻonuiʻana i ka mālama manawaʻoi aku ma mua o nā makua o ka poʻe i nele o lākou kino kīnā.
ʻO ka lōʻihi o ke kaumaha o kēia noʻonoʻo i ka lōʻihi o ka lōʻihi o ka ola ma 9 a 12 mau makahiki, e waiho ana i nā mākua e pili ana i ka mea nāna e mālama i kā lākou keiki pono'ī i ka wā i hala.
Ua hōʻikeʻia ka noi inā loaʻa iā ADHD kāu keiki,ʻo kēia hopena i ka hoʻonuiʻia o nā pilikia me kaʻohana a me ka nohoʻana o ka wahine, e uhaki i nā pili makua-keiki, me ka ikaika o ka makua a me ka hou.
ʻO Balancing Life me kekahi mau makemake nui keiki
- Kākoʻo kōkuaʻohana / kākoʻo . Ua hauʻoli loa wau i ka loaʻaʻana o ka kākoʻoʻana o koʻuʻohana e kōkua ana i ka mālamaʻana i kaʻu kaikamahine i koʻu wā e hana ana, a inā paha e pono ai au e hele ai me nā hoaaloha. I nā manawa he nui, pono ka makua hoʻokahi e haʻalele i kāna hana e mālama pono i kā lākou keiki pono'ī kūikawā,ʻo ia hoʻi ka hoahana hana pinepine i nā hola lōʻihi e hōʻoia iā ia /ʻaʻoleʻo ia e nalowale i kā lākou hana. Hiki ke hōʻaha i kēia pilina. Ināʻaeʻoe ma waho o ka moku'āina aʻaʻohe o kaʻimi piliʻohana / hoaaloha iāʻoe, eʻoluʻolu e nānā me kāu wahi kikowaena āpau eʻike ai inā hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻomaha (nā kālā i hoʻokaʻawaleʻia e kōkua i nā mākua i ka ukuʻana no nā mea mālama) a no nā'ōlelo kūpono .
- E ho'āʻo i kāu ala hele . Ua hoʻololi au i nā ala hana a me kēia manawa he hale homeopath wau, i hōʻoiaʻia ka mea hoʻolaha a me ka meaʻai kula. Ua kōkua kēia mau mea a pau i kaʻu kaikamahine, no laila ua hele au i nā papa hana e kōkua i nā mākua'ē aʻe eʻimi ana i nā pilikia. ʻO koʻu papahana he mea maʻalahi ia e mālama ai i nā mākua o nā keiki makua kūikawā i hiki iā mākou ke hālāwai i ke kanaka a iʻole Skype i kēlā me kēia lā o ka pule. Ke mālama nei kēia hana i kaʻu kaikamahine i mua a me ke kikowaena. ʻO kaʻu mea hana e kōkua ai i nā mea a pau, me ia.
E kūkākūkā me nā kumuwaiwai kanaka eʻike ai inā loaʻa kekahi mau pono a iʻole nā papahana kūikawā lākou e hāʻawi ai e kōkua i nā mākua o nā keiki me nā pono kūikawā.
- E kūkākūkā i nā kohoʻoihana me kāu mea hana . Hiki paha ke hana i kekahi o kou mau hola i ka manawa o kāu keiki i loko o ka wā hoʻomaha? Hiki paha i kou mau hola ke hoʻololi i ka hoʻomakaʻana i ka lā e hiki ai i kāu mea nui aʻohana paha ke mālama i kāu keiki ke hoʻomakaʻoe i ka hana? Hiki iāʻoe ke lawe i nā hākākūkā o ka pō ma mua o nā mea'ē aʻe e hopohopo nei kekahi i kekahi manawa o kāu mau hola hana? E hoʻolālā i nā mea loli a maʻalahi a noʻonoʻo i nā manaʻo i ka mea nānaʻoe i hana.
- Pūʻulu Kiʻi . Hiki iā ia ke paʻakikī me nā keiki kūikawā kūikawā, akā hiki iā ia ke kōkua iāʻoe e loaʻa i ka kākoʻo a me ka hōʻoluʻolu. Loaʻa nā hui e hālāwai me ka pule a meʻole ka mahina a ināʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke loaʻa, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomaka. Hiki iā ia ke kōkua iāʻoe eʻike inā loaʻa kekahi mau hōʻalo, nā meaʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a me ka hilinaʻi paha i nā mākua'ē aʻe i hiki ke kūʻai aku i nā manawa hānai keiki no kā lākou mau keiki.
Ke noi nei ka laina lalo no ke kōkua. E like me nā mākua kūikawā nui, ua lilo mākou i poʻe akamai e hilinaʻi nei iā mākou iho e kōkua i kā mākou mau keiki, akā naʻe, e noʻonoʻo i nā mea e pono aiʻoe e kōkua i kāu keiki e holomua i ka hopena o ka ikaika o ka hana a ma ka home.
Nā Manawai:
- http://www.abilitypath.org/love-laugh--live/stress-relationships/coping/articles/mothers-of-children-with-special-needs-and-combat-soldiers.html
- http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-is-2020/201310/pity-the-parents-special-needs-children-hele-one
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About Sima Ash - Sima Ash of Healing 4ʻO ke ola he clinical / homeical homeopath, GAPS Keʻokeʻo lapaʻauʻia a me nā mea lawelawe meaʻaiʻoihana i hoʻohana i kahi alana kūikawā i hoʻonohonohoʻia e Tinus Smits, MD i kapaʻiaʻo ISASE. Ua komoʻo ia i loko o ke ola hōʻailona ma hope o kaʻikeʻana i nā hoʻololi maikaʻi o kāna kaikamahine iʻikeʻia heʻano autism i ka pihaʻana o nā makahikiʻekolu. No kaʻike'ē aʻe, eʻoluʻolu e lele iā www.healing4soul.com. Hiki iāʻoe ke hahai iā Sima ma Facebook ma 'Cease Therapy California' aiʻole kelepona iā ia ma 949-916-9990.